Attitudes of Cooperation - 7C's of Cooperation

When cooperation comes naturally...attitudes of cooperation are natural reactions to what's going on;

We're calm

 Maybe confused

  We're curious to understand what's going on

  We care what's going on

  We connect with the people involved, and

We cooperate to find something that works for everyone. 

Sometimes we might be surprised or caught off guard and think people are joking - when they're not. In keeping with the 'c' theme let's call this reaction;

 Comic

Comic, Calm, Confused, Curious,

Care, Connect, Cooperate

If people are using Power Plays to try to manipulate/coerce/force us to do what they want - and we're feeling threatened - making a conscious choice to use these reactions helps us keep an attitude of cooperation - when it doesn't come naturally.

 So when we're faced with a situation we don't like or want, for example, people trying to manipulate/coerce/force us to do what they want using power plays such as;

discounting, judging, dictating, evaluating, manipulating, diverting, confusing,avoiding, excluding, deceiving, guilting & intimidating

• Rather than being upset, angry or scared...
• Rather than striking out or sucking it up...
• Rather than acting like an ass or a doormat...

Imagine being; 

Comic, Calm, Confused, Curious,

Caring, Connecting, Cooperative

Like this...

Comic

"Hahaha!" 
"Funny!"

Calm

"You're not joking?" 
"Sorry." 
"I thought you were joking!"

Confused

"What?" 
"Sorry?" 
"Excuse me?" 
"I don't understand!"

Curious

"What's going on?" 
"What's this about?" 
"What's happening?" 
"What am I missing?" 
"What is this?"

Care

"Are you ok?" 
"Is there a problem?" 
"You have a problem with this?" 

"Yes? Oh! What is it?"

Connect

"I'm sorry."
"I didn't know."
"I had no idea." 
"I didn't realize." 
"I hadn't heard."

Cooperate

"Let's talk it over?" 
"Let's work it out?!" 
"Let's find a way to make this work for both of us?!"

hey! that works!

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