How People Displace Rights & Responsibilities
Wednesday, May 19, 2010 at 5:50PM 
Situations we don’t like or want often boil down to what’s called displacement of rights and/or responsibilities.
Displacements can be dominating or submissive.
Displacement by Domination
We displace rights and responsibilities with dominating behaviours, if we;
* force our responsibilities on others, and 
* take others responsibilities from others.
Displacement by Submission
We displace rights and responsibilities with submissive behaviours, if we;
* abdicate our responsibilities to others, and 
* accept others responsibilities from others.
The Problem:
Displacements are problems waiting to happen - because generally, we don’t like people;
* forcing their responsibilities on us, and
* taking our responsibilities from us
...except if it works to our advantage!
And we don’t like;
* abdicating our responsibilities to others, and
* accepting others responsibilities from others
...except if it works to our advantage!
The problem with displacements is they displace rights and responsibilities!!!
When people get what they want at the expense of others
- it leads to hard feelings
- which leads to payback.
So while people seem to be getting what they want - any advantage received in the short-term is likely to backfire in the longer-term.
Check it out on this music video (1m21s):
How People Displace Rights & Responsibilities
For those up for the challenge...
Where might we be displacing rights and responsibilities - dominating to get others to do what we want them to do? Or submitting to doing what others want when we don’t want to?
How has doing this in the short term created problems for you in the longer term?
Wouldn’t it be great if we were all better at communicating with each other about what we want and need, and problem-solving to find solutions that work for everyone?
If you’re willing to share your experiences of displacements they’re welcome on the blog.
* If you’re displacing right & responsibilities by dominating - how do you typically go about doing it? And how do you justify getting what you want at the expense of others?
* If you’re displacing right & responsibilities by submitting - how do you typically go about doing it? And how do you justify giving up what you want in favor of others?
More on what’s going on and what we can do about it in future posts.
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“What’s Going On?” Communication: What Hurts & What Works
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Next time... The Passive Nature of Cope Strategies - & How It Hurts!
Until then, here’s hoping we experience less of what hurts and more of what works!
Wishing you happiness,
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